Ep 36. How low can you go? Your confidence, that is. Hamlet, Mornings, Dad

Even when I got a part I wanted - Hamlet... my mind was ready for a sabatoge. Self doubt could be stifling us. We have no idea what's possible. Challenging schedules and finding your morning. There's a book called "The Morning Miracle" by Hal Elrod. It made a change pretty quickly. But then it was on me to keep that going.  Trying to share how powerful that is.  

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The JOYFull Podcast – Hosted by Ethan Sharrett –
Ep 36. Overcome Low Confidence With Morning
Me-Time 
0:15 Now it’s recording. All right, I’m going to try to recreate everything I just said while
the microphone was not on. I don’t know how I’m going to do that. I’ve been rambling
to myself, I guess with no microphone on. This is Episode 36 of the JOYFull podcast.
My name is Ethan Sharrett. Thank you so much for listening to it. It’s a pleasure to have
you here. And as always, if you feel moved, every review or comment or little thumbs
up, thumbs up really helps. But if you would, please leave any review on like iTunes,
or Apple podcasts or anything like that. It helps people to kind of relate to what the
show is like and see if they want to check it out or not. And I would be so happy and
thankful to you for doing that. And for listening. Well, it’s the JOYFull podcast. And
like I said, Episode 36. All the other episodes, there’s a lot more than 36. But a lot of
them in the first year were not designated with the number. There was just like interview
episode. That’s all it would say. But from now on going forward, we are numbering
them. So no matter what, if it’s an interview episode, or just, I guess, an advancement
technique episode, it will all be numerated.
1:38 Well, I have just written a bunch of notes over the last day or so. And now they all look
like chicken scratch. “Who wrote these episode notes?” Me! Me, I guess, I did. This
show usually has three components. And it’s one like, what’s going on with me? Not
because I need you to know what’s going on with me, but because anything somebody
is going through, chances are you are too, or have or know somebody who is. So I try
to just share what’s going on with me. So you can contextualize what the second
component is, which is the sharing and description of some method, approach,
technique, tool, idea that I am practicing. So you can figure out if you’d like to apply
that or hopefully pique your interest in it because everything I practice, I feel it is really
positive and good. I mean, I do some things that are definitely not positive, And no
good at all. But the ones that I’m sharing are all good. And hopefully I can pique your
interest in some of those. And the third thing is like a cultural observation about some
kind of issue, political issue, world issue, book, a movie, something in the media,
something like that. I’m in media. I should be a mediaologist. I just came up with that. 
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So thanks for listening, geez. Once again, I recorded so much good content, and I looked
down. And somehow the thing had stopped recording. And I was literally talking about
how I didn’t record enough because of the technical issues. So I’m trying to figure that
out. Thank you so much for bearing with me.
3:31 This episode is just me talking about me, and you. And I’ve gotten a couple of emails
about guests lately. And some of them have been anonymous, some of them have just
said, “Thanks.” I like it. And even those, if you can just do those, those allow people to
possibly check it out, possibly share, which I would be so grateful to you for.
3:56 So what is going on with me? Well, I drove around today for Uber, drove a bunch of
people around. That’s a really cool thing to do. I like it. I mean, you get exhausted from
just the stress of trying not to crash and have anybody crashed into you and traffic rules
and lane changes and all that. But it’s awesome for people to be able to... You turn on
this app and people get in your car and you say, “Hey to them,” and then you get a little
bit of money. So whilst I am between careers and sources of more stable income, I’m
doing that and it’s pretty fun. Just got done doing that today. And if you have any
questions about what that experience is like, or what are the etiquette there in, you
know, or your observations or what your experiences have been with Uber, please write
in ethan.sharrett@gmail.com, or you can find me on Instagram and message that way,
its @ethansharrettofficial. And soon, like I keep saying, I’m going to flesh out that
JOYFull podcast Instagram as well. But right now, just the one picture.
5:15 Well, I tried to bring it to you very authentically, if I can, which is not always easy for
all of us. Some of us have to... We literally have to go into a specialist to bring out what
the hell is wrong with us, right. And so I am trying to bring that about, and share it with
you. And what I’m doing to tackle some of the issues you also might be tackling, which
is causing yourself to experience more joy, and share more joy, because you’re full of
that joy, and enhance our experience collectively and individually on this planet.
Because a lot of things are possible. A lot of things are possible. And things that we
haven’t even thought of yet. There are things right now that we think are impossible.
And we are all bothered by which will be done. And problems will be solved. Like the
way our brains work, I mean, it’s going to be laughable some of the things that we think
now and some of the divisions that are between us now, some of the bullshit we fall for
now, as society that... I really believe, like in a few years’ time, so many more people 
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are going to understand how important it is for our brains to be healthy and how parts
of our neuroses and areas of the brain can cause us to react in some of the ways that we
do that keep us from making any ground on some of the bigger issues, like helping
people get more educated. So that our economy doesn’t have these weird, artificial
damaging things in it, like that are bad for the environment, or bad for our own health
that we consume so much. And because we don’t know any better. Well, we’re going
to know better, we’re known more and more and more better all the time. So I encourage
you to just keep doing what you’re doing. Because it’s getting better all the time.
7:45 Despite what you see in the.... Just don’t believe the hype. Don’t believe the hype of
the divisiveness. It is only getting more and more and more and more. And in the end,
I mean, you should believe the hype that if you take care of yourself and make your
brain healthy, and share how to do that, with more and more people, which we are the
younger generation, as well as the people who are just fed up of like older generations,
we are coming around. We are meditating. We are seeing that we’re accountable for
what we do. And we are realizing we can give ourselves a better day, a better life by
some of the simple things we practice. And not by what we own. Although it is nice to
own things. Sure.
8:43 All right. I am kind of spent, but I do want to get into... Like the first thing was Uber,
the second could be... What’s going on with me? I’m moved. I tell you that before in
the other episode. Oh! how I started... How I had my notes? This line from Hamlet from
Hamlet, Shakespeare. Well Horatia sees the ghost of Hamlet’s father, also named
Hamlet, memory serves. And he says, “Oh! This is wondrous strange”, and he’s like,
“terrified”. And Hamlet says, “Well, then, as a stranger, give it welcome. There are
more things in heaven and earth Horatio than are dreamt of in your philosophy.” And
he’s like, through some kind of tragedy, the tragedy that takes place in Hamlet, he’s
opened his mind to the world; things are possible. And he’s saying to Horatio, “Listen,
your imagination, your philosophy right now, it needs to embrace new things because
the world can be seen differently. There are things existing that we don’t think are
capable, are possible right now.” So that’s kind of like... That’s why I had that in my
notes. Because somehow this wonder is strange was in my journal the other day. Just I
remember writing down this is a mysterious magical world. There are opportunities.
There’s more possible in this world than we think right now. And so let’s push our 
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imagination for our day today, and tomorrow, and get ready for tomorrow. Get ready
for tomorrow.
10:43 And that led me to think that when I got fortunate enough to be, in this little small
Theatre Company in Los Angeles with a black box theater, was doing a bunch of plays.
And I was lucky enough to be cast and play Hamlet, in that little production in a stylish
little take on Hamlet, but using the actual play, and I got so many I have so much reward
or good compliments, and, I don’t know, what are the what’s the word?
Congratulations, everybody [was saying]. “Congratulations, amazing, that you got that
part. Congrats, congrats, congrats, way to go”. And I remember feeling like that way I
was, was amazing. I really was trying to get that part so bad. Which is funny in itself.
But it was absolutely 100% real at the time. I remember at the read through the very
first read through when everybody gets together and sees who you meet, not only meet
the cast, but you know, we sit down and we just actually take out the play and read
through it. So everybody’s sitting down in the, in the chairs of the theater, like they’re
the audience there. But this is the cast. And the director is the only one sitting on the
stage. She’s the director, and she’s going to kind of call out, the stage directions and
kind of paste the thing along for everybody. And she goes Ethan, you, you sit up here
with me on the stage your Hamlet. I remember just thinking, looking at everybody out
there, and the other guys who had also audition, who were playing some of the other
cool parts in there, and they auditioned for Hamlet. I remember looking at each of them
and thinking, oh my God! that guy would be an awesome Hamlet. “Oh my gosh! That’s
like, that’s Hamlet. That’s what Hamlet would look like, right there”. That is what I
wanted to share with you that crazy level of self-doubt some of us get before we even
like undertake a thing or while we are doing it. And I just want that’s like one of it’s
kind of always stay with me why would I even have that impulse of thinking? I’m so
somebody else should be hammered and not me. It’s not very good to go into a project
that way. I guess I kind of ignored those instincts. And in the here’s the truth about that
no matter who is playing this part or that part, whoever is or doing this job or that job,
Billy Bob or Joe. There’s nobody that can do them if they’re practicing these life
affirming practices, these techniques, and they’re finding they’re speaking from their
true voice. And they’re not thinking that somebody else should be doing it, but they’re
doing enough repetition and enough exploration, enough study and just in confidence
building exercises. I mean, some of them are as simple as just saying, I am confident I 
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am confident a lot of times and I didn’t at that time. I didn’t know that since then, I’ve
started this podcast. And because I’m really turned on by the ability to give ourselves a
better day and a better life through practice and that some people need it. And if you
have doubt or if you lack confidence sometimes, I just want to share with you how I
found that was such a low point of doubt that I would even like think that and of course
I didn’t know I wasn’t quite a Were I mean, I, I did some of the practices that I talked
about now. It was, it was probably, on my radar, how awesome Yoga is for you. But I
didn’t realize many, many, many of the other things that I share on this podcast. And
that people have that make up the mindfulness revolution that say, you can advance
your mind, you can take control of your emotions, you can cultivate more of the life
and the energy that you want to have in yourself and therefore share with the world.
Because, everybody deserves some joy. Everybody deserves to experience that. And
anything’s possible, it really is. Where was going with, I was just reading through my
notes, and saying, just how crazy that is that? How much you can lack confidence
sometimes. And then I asked, how’s your tomorrow looking and if your tomorrow is
looking anything, like, if you’ve heard me talk about like the Miracle Morning, or the
miracle, the self, people call it the Miracle Morning, self-love time, the self-love hour,
the Power Hour, the me time morning, the me gift, the I love me a lot to me, it’s all
about you. I mean, it’s you. And there’s this really special thing that you can do in your
mornings to, to I’d like you to wipe the slate clean of how you’re going to feel. Once
you do these things, I just am going to encourage you to know that you’re going to feel
different. If you have a morning that includes some of these things. And if you can’t do
the 30 straight days of this me time morning, that’s 60 minutes long before you go to
work or anything like that, if you can’t do that, and maybe you could do like four days
or five days. And I have an amazing experience with that. And the whole concept is
this, I want to ask you a serious question. When you got up this morning? How much
time did you have before you were reacting to other things? How much time was it that
was planned that you were hitting exactly the marks that you had designed? Like the
previous day. If you have the kind of life that you’re already like, bam, this is where
what I grab at 5:30am. This is what I do at 5:45am. If those are like all are already like
these, these bullet points on your day, kudos to you. That’s awesome. And I and then I
want to challenge you and see if you’re doing some of these other things as well, since
you’re obviously a master of like staying on track with that. If you wake up and you’re
immediately like solving your kids’ problems, or immediately just trying to get ready 
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on time and saying and like short, short cutting things to get to your car on time or, you
know, like I don’t have time to make breakfast, I’ll stop and get it. I don’t have time to
wash my hair. I’ll just you know, put it in a ponytail. Or whatever. If you’re doing those
things, just reactionary, wise. When it started building a morning of me time, that’s
completely proactive that you planned the night before. And so if your answer was
Yeah, pretty much felt like it was like a reaction the whole day until I got home. And
then I at the end of the day, I can finally just laze around on the couch just for five to
30 minutes and just not do anything because I’m so exhausted from getting myself
home or getting myself and my family home or whatever.
19:26 And this whole thing about this miracle me morning time. It’s just, I have so much more
to say about it. But um, that’s what we’re going to go with today. And I have some tools
if you’ve, if you it’s really, really hard to think of doing this. But the whole concept is
that there’s one hour that you’re going to gift yourself, nobody else can possibly do
this, except you. And it’s an amazing thing because the world is going to cause you to
do react all day long. But this is something that starts your day out with you at the center
of it that nourishes your mind nourishes your confidence nourishes your body, and helps
you visualize what you want. Even if all your visualization is I don’t know what I want
yet. And it’s going to allow you to bring in, there’s other things that you’re not doing,
like start introducing them to you to your life, if you wanted to read a book, if you
wanted to write a book, if you want to go back to school, if you want to get your real
estate license, if you wanted to dimension those things already. If you wanted to learn
something, get in better shape, get some biceps, get some guns for the hands, do some
curls for the girls, anything like that, you’ll get a chance to start doing those things
initially just introducing them to your typical day. However, it’s challenging when,
especially if you have kids, and especially if you have a rotating work schedule that
sometimes you get home late, late at night sometimes don’t. My brother who is a pilot
and go flies all the time, to different places. And of course he has a varying schedule.
So it’s really hard to get on track. I’m not going to solve exactly that problem. But I
will yeah, yeah, let’s solve that problem. Because this is what I had to do for myself
moving from the apartment where me and jack live to house, which is one of the
exciting changes, told you about moved in with the special lady into a house just
recently and moved the like the idea of looking for a job, and career changing, which
I’m doing, moving. These are all these things which we kind of like grant ourselves like
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this is really difficult. This is a really difficult change. I can’t be expected to have my
great mornings right now. I’ll get I’ll work towards it. Well, it had been too long. I’ve
been going too long with that. And I needed to look around desperately for how could
I introduce this to my life, to get back into my time mornings. And so I can be
productive again, and not just work and react all the time. And if you’re not ready to
say, all right, well, tomorrow, I’m going to have this hour that includes 10 minutes of
exercise, two minutes meditation, 10 minutes of journaling, 10 minutes of affirmations,
and 10 minutes of visualization, and 10 minutes of reading. If you’re not going to make
that hour for yourself tomorrow, then you can, here’s what you can do. You can get
stuff ready to do it tomorrow. Like before you go to bed, you can look around, as if you
were going to do it and say, Alright, what would I need? If I were to like, where would
I put my coffee? If I sat down here and started reading at 5am for 10 minutes? Do you
have a timer? Does your like Fitbit or Apple Watch, have a timer on there that makes it
easy to time 10 minutes, that’s a really like helpful device because it’s like a mechanical
thing. Or device anyway, that will tell you when your 10 minutes is up so you can so
easily stay on track and say, Alright, that was 10 minutes of reading boom on to the
next thing. So do you have a timer? Do you have a place where you can put your
exercise clothes so that you’re not waking anybody up and when you go get changed,
just a little staggered, go get the socks that you want to wear or the shorts that you want
to wear when you do your 10 minutes of meditation and your 10 minutes of exercise
and your 10 minutes of affirmation. How’s that going to look? Are you going to get
your phones when you’re listening to like a 10-minute affirmation YouTube video or
something? You can go get those things ready, and start to implement that. And let me
tell you how effective it is. This whole thing started actually with as with a conversation
with my brother, he had asked me “Hey, you really slowed down on making content
for that. Not just department, YouTube and Facebook brand that you made that not just
departments you’re making content. You slow down with that what’s up?” And I just
said, “Man I’ve been I’d love to do it. I don’t know what happened. My I haven’t had
time lately. I’ve been doing a lot of stuff.” And he says: What do you been doing with
your mornings because he was curious because he wants to get on traffic mornings too.”
And I thought, Oh my gosh! I am desperately trying to get my mornings back my me
time mornings back. Because that’s the only time I know that is guaranteed for me my
productivity and my advancement and what I was Explaining was that when I got into
this a year ago of doing, I’d always, like I said, I’ve always enjoyed going for a run 
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before work. But I didn’t realize how, how different the view of that is when you look
at it as, like a one-hour consistent gift that includes like, not just exercise, but these,
these many different facets that are that are healthy and good for your mind, body and
soul.
25:32 And when I did get into that last year, it was amazing. Like I was in that funk, when I
couldn’t, I wasn’t inspired by work, I didn’t see a way out, I didn’t have colleagues that
like similar like, like minded, I didn’t, I wasn’t advancing any ideas, any place, I was
just kind of, you know, just running operations. So I was I was in like a motivational,
creative funk. Having amazing weekends and evenings with me and the kid, of course,
but all day long. Being in that that low place, I started this. And I didn’t do it for 30
days, like, the suggestion is like the challenge is, I did it for five days. And out of that
five days, by the end of that, like third day or fourth or fifth day, I was so completely
turned around, I had written, I’d started vision boards, I’d started this whole new brand,
which like kept me completely fired up over the next whole year. And made I don’t
know if it’s like either five or 1520 videos that I was able to like conceptualize this
thing and brainstorm a lot of it. And I still feel like has a ton of potential that hasn’t
even been scratched yet. I have a lot more unfinished content that I’m going to post up
there. And I’m not bragging on that. I’m just saying, if you do this for yourself,
seriously, it’s going to take you some kinks. And part of the journaling it was it sucks
that like when you first open the journal? Was this successful today? Did I start at five
o’clock am or now did I start at 545 I’m only going to have time for like, you know,
one of these things today? Well, when I actually did it successfully, for like the third,
fourth day in a row, I was so transformed that I was seeing everything as a different
possibility. And I still remember writing on my vision board that you can redefine
things or redefine. Like a child, I remember having this challenge at work. And I
completely turn that into one of the most successful videos so far, I had to do this thing
and get this thing done. It needed video content for it. And I was I went to work and
instead of dreading it, which I had done the previous day, after a morning like the one
I had made for myself, as part of this, I was excited. And I completely solved that
problem and not only solved it, but like in in a way that’s like a permanent, creative,
creative way. So I just want to let you know that all of that was just from five days. So
imagine what you could do if you do it for like 10 or 30. And that’s what I’m excited
about right now with me. And the approach that I have right now is I would the new 
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place I’m living, I am trying to make that work. And it’s challenging. Because now
when like, you know, if you’re in a new place, you’re not used to exactly how long it’s
going to take to get dressed, where you want shower where you want after, if, if when
a kid gets up, so now they’re kind of two kids in the household. So if my girlfriend’s
daughter woke up early in the middle of what I would have been doing my Miracle
Morning, well, that’s one of those challenges, and we’re going to just try to do it better
and better, even if I have to do it earlier and earlier, and so forth. So that’s what I want
to leave you with is how significant that knee time morning is. And just get on that
please let me know if you have experience with that you can share it @gmail.com
29:02 and the third part before we close this thing out is boom, the cultural observation of
already said that one politics don’t believe the hype. Don’t believe the hype. The
divisiveness is not is not getting worse and worse it’s going to get better and better
because there’s people like you and me that are practicing our accountability our peace
or happiness or joyfulness and sharing that with the world and we’re seeking
authenticity. And we’re starting to understand that we’ve been susceptible to
inauthenticity for a long time. But we’re starting to get through to the root of it in
ourselves, and then therefore, like, between ourselves and we need each other. We all
are in this thing together as this virus is, is showing us we’re all in this together and
none of us can really predict that something might happen, it can kind of throw a huge
curveball in everything have this butterfly effect for the good or bad. Let’s get some
butterfly effects for the good. That’s the cultural observation, the practice I’m
approaching. Very exciting. I’ve never seen a therapist before. So, I’m excited to start
working with therapists. I’ve seen this doctor two times. And it has only been
preliminary so far, but there was a little bit of an introduction to a trance state hypnosis.
Today data trans trance state hypnosis today. And so we’ll see if that is super helpful.
I’m excited about it. Excited a lot of people find a counselor or therapist to be the best
thing they can do. And when you combine that with other things that we’re doing on
this show, might even be better so I’m going to close that out. Please follow along I
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